kusut

serba serbi tak kena hari hari yang lepas
macam ada benda yang tak siap
macam ada perut yang lapar....
tak tau nak menuding jari dekat mana sebab jari pun tak ada..
camna???

rasa yang tengah rasa ni memang tak bes
kusut, serabut, panas, terpinga, pelik, kemaruk, tersepit.. semua campur jadi sebatian rasa
boleh demam sebuah roh tak kudus ini
boleh lemas dalam sesak yang pahit

kalau ikutkan hati, memang jauh aku nak lari dan terus menghilang dari kelilingku
lari sampai tak cukup tanah, lari jauh-jauh hingga letih mengelabui rasa
tapi yang dikatakan pelari itu adalah pengecut
dan aku bukan pengecut

kalau ikutkan nafsu,
harus aku balas setiap yang mencabar
wajib aku ajar semua yang menadah
untung aku masih ingat yang dinamakan nafsu itu menyesatkan

wahai hati, jangan berhenti belajar menahan kesakitan
kerna ia akan datang berlarutan
wakai jiwa, biasakan lah dirimu dengan kocakan dunia
tenang hanya sampai padamu jika kamu penuh dengan cinta
dan yang kekal itu hanya pada Nya

rabbana aatina fiddun.ya hasanah, wa fil aakhirati hasanah, wa qinaa azaaban naar

Mengapa???

Now, there's one thing that's been bothering me lately coz it involves people close to me and seem very unlikely to be tested by IT. what is it that im talking about today. What is it thats going so rampant today that when we see it or when it happens amongst us, we just close one eye or just simply be oblivious about it? CURANG. Come on people, say it again, CURANG.

Curang can be defined as act of unfaithfulness, normally to a spouse. Honestly, this act of unfaithfulness warrant no forgiveness at all coz its unthinkable. I mean, how can you cheat on your partner or worse your spouse? Where has your conscience gone and what were you thinking? Haiya, dont get me started with all my nonsensical questions but why, how, kenapa some of you resorted to this unacceptable act?

I have a friend who's been married for 8 years and have 4 kids. He is a good husband and often regarded as an example of an ideal husband to his close frens even to myself. A very faithful husband to his wife, a loving father to his children and a good fren to us. I always believe that he is the one most unlikely to stray to the wrong path , until most recently, when my he confided in me that he is in love with another lady who is also already married. It all started with a friendly hello via facebook and next, they talk to each other everyday ever since. At first I thought that what he is having is just a mere infatuation and it will pass eventually but hey... i am wrong. It seems that the feelings he has for her are getting stronger and deeper by each day. And today, seeing him torn or shall i say drowned in his own madness, i cant help but wonder, is it normal for married couple to have feelings as deep as love for someone else other than his/her spouse, and what are the cause for this curang things to take place.

I surfed around for some info and stumbled upon an article on causes of infidelity/curang. Basically there are 7 common causes of infidelity, as follows:-

1. They feel pressured to keep up with their friends, meaning, almost everyone in their circle of friends are doing it, so they feel obliged to jump into the bandwagon. Remember, peer pressure is a strong thing, no matter how old you are.

2. Your partner is angry at you. Maybe they have something against you which you are not aware of. Maybe they are resentful of you doing something which they didnt like or they are unhappy with their life. Either way, they are taking it out on you by having an affair with someone else.

3. They are simply attracted to someone else and they want to act on it, be it sexually or non sexual. They think that you would never know and what you dont know will not hurt you? Right? (this no. 3 really scares me)

4. They feel trapped in a relationship/marriage and they want out but they couldnt do so for some reasons. Many people in a relationship/marriage will decide, at some point, they that are not happy but they dont want to leave or couldnt leave. They choose the solution that hurts the most in the long run and then try to have the best of both worlds.

5. They simply just want to fall in love again, experience the thrill and sensational feelings of falling in love. Maybe they watch too many romantic movies or read too many books. For some people, the feeling of romance and the rush of a new love can be very addictive feelings. They want to re-live and re-capture that feeling so they turn to someone else.

6. They dont feel desireable by you. They will reach out to someone else to make them feel that way. They think that you only desire them because you are their partner therefore you feel obliged to desire them. But lets say if a stranger wants them? It will surely boost their ego and make them feel good of themselves.

7. Your partner cant connect with you emotionally. They cannot open up and confide anything in you. Theres no emotional bond between you and them. If your partner is afraid of intimacy, they might try to push you away by having sex with someone else. Its their way of putting an emotional wall between the two of you.

Well, there you go, 7 common causes of infidelity. For those of you whose partner are cheating on you, i hope the above can be of any help. Once you know the cause, then the next course of action is of course, trying saving the relationship.

For the rest of us who are not troubled by unfaithful partner, maybe the 7 causes will serve as a reminder to us not to take our partner for granted or else they will easily go to someone else.

Article source : ezinearticles.com/?expert=Christina_Caci

Home

Me and partner purchased a property back then in 2007 and we got the keys to the house last Ramadhan. Buying a house is not a small matter, at least for us the mere mortals who earn pittance. We scouted lots of house within KL specifically near Ampang and Melawati. Why those place? Because me and partner never lived outside those area and the idea of living close to our parents and existing frens are ideal enough. After rounds of endless quarrels and taking into account our small savings, we bought a house somewhere in between AMpang and Melawati. hehehh, good, no? and a plus point for me is that, its the same taman where fasha sandha lives, shes in phase 1 and moi in phase 2. Gosshh, i love that women despite all those negative gossips coz shes freaking hot, still beautiful with a minimal make up.

Now, its been 8 effing months since we got the keys and the house is still not ready for us to reside yet. I never knew that renovating a house can cause so much headaches and its too time consuming. Time were much spent to find/ survey electrical appliances, bathroom accesories, kitchen appliances, fans, lights, air conds, and in between visit the contractor/ ID and all of this could only be done in Saturdays and Sundays. So there goes my leisure time, sleeping, movies, termenung, cruelly taken away from me. No wonder lah for wealthy people, they just engage an ID, fork out some money and just sit back and relax until the house is ready,i wish im in that category.

So far, our house is 50% ready. The lights and wiring - completed, copper piping for hot water - completed, grille, alarm sytem, plaster ceiling - completed, kitchen cabinet - completed, and on its way is our wardrobe and automatic gate and once everything is done, me and partner can move in, if only we decide to.

For those of you who are on the look out for contractors, you can check out this company

bstrenovation.blogspot.com

they offer competitive price and the workmanship is superb.

until then.

apakah??

hari yang penat, sampai beban dalam hati yang seberat gunung tak terasa
mungkin juga beban tu dah kurang, atau main sorok2

esok aku akan ketemu tuan punya beban, mana mungkin aku rasa tenang
cinta memang tak kehabisan
tak kehabisan orang untuk dicintai

dan kau,
mmg random sekali
aku harap sampai satu saat kau tau jugak apa yang ada dalam hati ini
bukan nak mengharap benda yang mustahil
tapi mengharapkan keajaiban

im torn

Dunia Yang Tak Adil

Well, where shall i begin. Dunia ini mmg tak adil.

Lately, i've been around a bunch of people who keep on repeating this sentence "Dunia Yang Tak Adil". Maybe some of them are in the midst of a life changing problem, or in a heart wrenching relationship which led them to believe that life/the world is unfair.

Come to think of it, i've never thot about life or even this world in that way. Yes, there are lots of injustices going around but to say that dunia ni tak adil is another different topic altogether. Everything happens for a reason and we as His humble servant must strive and do our best to have all we want in life and of course, those hard work must me supported with Dua as well. What in our eyes looks unfairne might be the opposite to others.

The point is, I think, if we are always grateful and thankful to God for everything that He has blessed us, it would never occur to our mind that life is unfair. Maybe God tests us with misery and hardship just to make us get closer to Him of coz, God knows best and He is the best planner. All we need to do is look at the brighter side at our lives, be thankful, dua for the best and tawakkal.And another thing, dont look at this world as it will never end. Nothing lasts forever and we need to be prepared for what to come next.